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Die with Failure Not Potential

Potential is a word that, for too many people, hangs like an albatross around their necks. It’s a promise of what could be, a whisper of dreams unfulfilled, and a constant reminder of what we haven’t yet achieved. Society tells us to cherish our potential, to nurture it, to hold it like a sacred flame. But here’s a brutal truth for you: potential is worthless unless it’s realized. That’s right. Your potential doesn’t mean jack if it never materializes into action, results, even failure.

We’re taught to fear failure, to avoid it at all costs. But let’s strip away the sugar-coating and face the raw reality: failure is infinitely better than living with unfulfilled potential. Dying with failure means you tried. You fought. You clawed your way through life, not content to sit on the sidelines. Dying with potential? That means you were too scared to even get in the game.

Consider this: every successful person you’ve ever admired has a graveyard of failures behind them. Look at Elon Musk or Steve Jobs—each one of them has faced colossal setbacks. Musk was ousted from his own company and Jobs was forced out of Apple, the company he founded. They didn’t let their failures define them, but they also didn’t shy away from trying because of the fear of failure. They died (or will die) with scars, not unblemished potential.

On the flip side, there’s the tragedy of unfulfilled potential. Think about all the people who had “so much potential” but never realized it. They’re the could-have-beens, the almost-weres, the ones who let fear paralyze them into inaction. They’re the people who sat back, waiting for the perfect moment that never came. They end up with regrets, wishing they had just taken the leap, made the attempt, faced the failure. They die with potential because they never mustered the guts to turn that potential into reality.

Imagine what it would be like to be laying in your deathbed and thinking, “I could have been great.” Those are the most gut-wrenching words you’ll ever utter. Compare that to, “I gave it my all and failed spectacularly.” The latter carries a sense of pride, of having lived fully and fearlessly. You can’t look back and say you didn’t try. You won’t be haunted by the ghost of what might have been.

Now, let’s be clear: failing isn’t fun. It sucks. It’s painful, embarrassing, and sometimes humiliating. But it’s also a sign that you’re in the arena, not in the bleachers. You’re taking swings, not watching from a safe distance. Failure is a badge of honor, a testament to your courage and tenacity. Dying with failure means you played the game of life to the fullest. Dying with potential means you watched from the sidelines, afraid to get your hands dirty.

For all you perfectionists out there, it’s time to wake up. Perfection is an illusion. It’s a safety net for those too terrified to face reality. You wait and wait, tweaking and perfecting, but in the end, you do nothing. You hold onto your potential like a security blanket, but that blanket becomes your shroud. Rip it off. Get in the game. Fail. Fail again. And again. Because in those failures, you find growth, experience, and, ultimately, a life lived without regret.

So, what’s it going to be? Are you going to clutch your potential, hoping one day you’ll magically transform it into success without risk? Or are you going to charge forward, take risks, and embrace the possibility of failure? The choice is yours. Die with failure, having truly lived, or die with potential, having merely existed.

Life isn’t a rehearsal. You get one shot. Make it count. Fail gloriously. Wear your failures as a crown, not a shame. Because when the curtain falls, and it’s time to take your final bow, you want to know you gave it everything you had. Potential is a promise; failure is proof. Be brave enough to fail. Be bold enough to die with your failures rather than your potential. Because, in the end, it’s better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all.

Learn To Fail

No one likes to fail. Well, I’m pretty sure no one does, but I guess there could be that rogue person who just longs to fail at everything they do. Still failing isn’t really all that fun. But, oddly enough, I’m a huge advocate for teaching people how to fail because I firmly believe that failure is the best teacher.

In a former life I was a church planter. That pretty much is a person who desires to see a church started in a given area so they start it from just a seed of a few people. There’s no land, not much money, no formalized group of people, and often not even a building. The goal is over time to build a team to help you build relationships and start a church. Well, as I was building my team to start this would be church, one of the first questions I’d ask people was are you willing to fail.

If a person isn’t willing to fail then they’re sure to never succeed.

I firmly believe if we don’t have a willingness to fail, fear will creep in to the point where we won’t ever really accomplish the things we’re setting out to accomplish. In other words, fear of failing will seize us from taking the necessary risks needed to move forward. This is true on so many levels in our personal and professional lives.

If we are afraid of dropping a weight on ourselves while weight lifting, then we won’t stretch ourselves to lift heavy. If we’re unwilling to fail in a race then we won’t ever run. If we’re not willing to miss out on the promotion, then we likely won’t even apply for the job. There are so many places where failure is critical for success! I know that sounds like a contradiction but think about it.

Ever hear of WD-40? Most people know that it stands for Water Displacer. But the 40 is often lost. It represents the 40th try before getting it right. That means he failed 39 times before coming up with the product he was really trying to make. Thirty-nine failures? Most people would have given up after the third failed attempt. But 39?!?!

You see failure, while it doesn’t teach us the right answer, it always narrows down the field of possibilities. Every failure shows us what not to do. The issue is that most of us don’t research our failures closely enough to find out why they failed.

I have failed more times than I can even count! I know that each failure gets me closer to the real answer. Our system in life doesn’t really allow for failure in many places in life but I think a good leader will give his/her people the freedom to fail. When we teach people how to fail, we truly empower them to succeed.

One last illustration on failure. I can remember vividly learning how to ride a bicycle. I did the training wheel thing for a time but eventually I needed to learn how to balance without those extra (ugly) wheel additions. So my dad held my bike and ran with me as long as he could. But eventually he had to let go. In letting go he enabled me to fail. He was pretty sure that I’d fall but it was in falling off my bike that I learned how important balance really was. If I didn’t fall off my bike (read fail), then I would never have realized how important it is to not look behind you constantly to see if your dad is still holding the seat.

Failure is critical to any area of success. Until we’re able to embrace the failures in life, we’ll never experience the true success of which we’re capable.

Priceless

maxresdefault-2It’s so easy to listen to the voices around you. It’s easy to hear what the world says to and about you. Over the past several months I’ve gotten to know a few people who for some reason believe the words the hear screamed at them from behind the mirror. This song is dedicated to them. This #musicmonday post is dedicated to those special people in my life who think they’re not enough, that they have to look prettier or act better – that they’ll never measure up.  Continue reading

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